Statistikker om flørting, dating og attraktivitet


Flørting og datingarenaer

  • Forskere ved Universitetet i Chicago fant ut at det er dobbelt så høy sannsynlighet for å finne en date gjennom venner og familie enn på byen.
  • 40% av dem som dater noen fra en arbeidsplass ender med ekteskap.
  • Studier har vist at skoler, studieplasser, cafèer og kjøpesentere er gode steder å flørte, fordi folk er mer åpne for å møte andre på disse stedene.
    Dårlig plasser er restauranter og kinoer.
  • Eye contact, or a “copulatory gaze,” is a primary and powerful tool for attracting a potential date for both men and women.
    However, the meaning of various types of eye contact differs from culture to culture.
  • Twenty to 40 million Americans have used online dating services. Nearly 50% of online daters are aged 18-34 and 24% are 35-44.
  • The curve of the counter in a bar is designed so other customers can easily “check out” other customers. Bars also purposely place mirrors to help create a larger sense of place and to allow a person to scope out other people behind them.
  • Over 50% of all singles in America have not had a date in more than two years
  • I online dating frykter kvinner mest å treffe på en seriemorder, mens menn frykter mest å møte noen som er «feit». Ifølge Ann Rule så er 3% av alle menn psykopater, hvorav en liten prosentandel er seriemordere.

Attraktivitet og inntrykk

  • Psykologer ved Universitetet i Pennsylvania studerte over 10’000 speed daters og fant ut at de fleste gjør opp en mening om en persons attraktivitet innen 3 sekunder i et møte.
  • I en studie med 5’000 single mennesker, utførst av, svarte 43% at frist pust var det viktigste før en date, 17% svarte pene klær, 15% svarte sexy parfyme, 14% svarte pen hud, og 10% svarte pent hår.
  • Studier viser at godt humør er smittsomt og at potensielle dater har vanskelig for å gå ifra glade mennesker. En av de største turn-offs i en date er negativitet.
  • Mirroring, eller det å etterape noens kroppsspråk, imponerer ofte en date fordi det på en diskrè måte viser interesse for den andre. Man bør dog unngå å kopiere hver eneste bevegelse.
  • Hvis du vil knytte deg til en date raskt, så si navnet hans\hennes minst 2 ganger i samtalen. Dette viser oppmerksomhet og tilknytning.
  • Studier viser at det å huske biter med informasjon om en person og bruke dem i samtaler ikke bare fungerer som komplimenter men også viser interesse.
  • An attractive online “About Me” section in your online dating profile often includes a brief description of what you are passionate about or thankful for, a couple of things your friends say about you, qualities you are looking for in a potential partner, the first thing people notice about you (other than appearance), how you spend your leisure time, five things you can’t live without, and the latest good book you’ve read.
  • Humans like mystery and “the chase,” so don’t be too “available” to a date. Dating experts typically suggest not sleeping too early with a date because the longer the chase, the more likely love will blossom.

Rate of interest

  • If a woman is interested in her date, she will often smile at his jokes, play with her hair, fidget with an object such as a glass, blush when he pays her a compliment, pout or pucker her mouth, stumble over words, or lean in towards him.
  • Signs that a woman is not interested in her date include avoiding eye contact, faking a smile or not smiling, leaning away, answering in monosyllables, sagging her shoulders, looking at her watch, tapping her foot, or staring blankly.
  • If a woman offers to pay for everything, chances are she isn’t that into the date. There’s an unspoken understanding that a man paying for everything is a form of “copulatory gift,” which is almost universal in all animal species.
  • Dating specialists suggest that if a woman doesn’t return a call after two messages, she is not interested.
  • In American society, when a man offers his date his palm face up, he is most likely deeply attracted to the woman.
    In fact, a human’s brain is wired to respond to hand gestures and hand shapes, though the brain’s response depends on the man or woman’s culture and ethnicity.

Deal breakers og dumping

  • Four common date blunders include showing up late, talking about yourself too much, revealing too much about your ex, and an obvious over-eagerness.
  • A man’s top dating fears include that a woman will come between him and his friends, won’t allow him free time, will turn out to be a stalker, won’t respect him, or will be too high maintenance.
  • “Desperate” daters are typically always available, are clingy, need constant relationship status updates, fish for compliments, drop their standards, and rationalize bad treatment.
  • Ifølge en undersøkelse utførst av og Elle magasinet, så har 31% av menn og 12% av kvinner dumpet en partner pga overvekt.
  • Approximately 48% of online daters reported that their breakups occurred via email.
  • Statistics show that trying to get a relationship to work with an ex doesn’t usually work.
    The case where it might work is if there were extenuating circumstances of the breakup, such as one of couple had been going through a family tragedy or moved.
  • Five common signs a man may be cheating in a relationship are that he accuses his partner of cheating, he’s extremely vague, he seems to be compensating by acting extra nice for no reason, he’s always at work, and his partner’s friends drop her hints.
  • Signs that a man is about to break up with a woman include that he spends less time with her, he is no longer romantic, passionate kissing turns into quick pecks (particularly no kiss during sex), he fantasizes about someone else during sex, he pats her during a hug, and he tries to start fights.

Om kvinner

  • Studier viser at allerede før en mann har sagt ett ord, så vil måten han står på utgjøre 80% av en kvinnes førsteinntrykk.
  • Når en mann først oppsøker en kvinne, vil hun basere 55% av førsteinntrykket av ham på kroppsspråk og utseende, 38% på måten han snakker, og 7% på hva han faktisk sier.
  • If a group of women are standing together but their eyes are wandering, they are likely to be looking for guys.
    If they each take a turn to break away from the group to head to the bathroom alone, they are on the prowl.
    If they are huddled together giggling, they are usually not interested in finding men.
  • Beautiful women typically get more stares, winks, and harassment than average-looking women do, but they are also less likely to get asked out by average-looking men because those men tend to be intimated by them.
  • Talking to a bartender makes a woman seem more friendly and makes it easier for a guy to jump in on her conversation.
  • Topp 10 turn-offs for kvinner inkluderer kviser, flisete negler, promping, raping, manglende tenner, kroppslukt, dårlig ånde, hårete nesebor, «man boobs», nerdete briller og dårlige hårsveiser.

Om menn

  • Studier viser at menn blir skremt av store grupper høylytte kvinner. Hvis en kvinne vil ha en date, så bør hun gå vekk fra gruppen for å gi en mann en kjangse til å nærme seg henne.
  • It is hard for a man to strike up a conversation if there are just two women at a social scene because he doesn’t want the other friend to feel abandoned.
    So a woman who is looking to attract a date should bring two “wing women” with her.
  • A woman can increase the likelihood of a man approaching her if she uncrosses her arms, makes subtle eye contact, and smiles.
  • Five types of women that men tend to avoid are serial flirters, someone who talks about marriage too soon, clingy women, the party-girl, and a woman who talks too much or is drama queen.

Første date

  • Nesten 40% av alle menn føler seg ikke komfortable med å møte en kvinne for første gang.
  • Studier av kroppsspråk viser at det å vise  kroppsområder som vanligvis ikke vises frem (som feks innersiden av armene, føttene og nakken) har en umiddelbar effekt på en date og viser at man liker daten.
  • Avhengig av hva slags kvinne en mann skal møte, så bør han besøke en klesbutikk av en relevant sort. Feks før et møte med en friluftskvinne bør han gå til en sportsbutikk.
  • Choosing exciting places for a first date increases the chances of the other person falling for you. There is a definitive link between danger and physical/romantic attraction.
  • Worst places to go on first date include fast-food restaurants, your kids’ birthday party or school play, your parents’ house, strip clubs, X-rated films or swingers parties, a party where your ex will be, church activities, or window shopping.
  • Italian food is one of the most popular restaurants for a first date.


  • 29% of Americans have had sex on the first date.
  • The appropriate time to call after meeting a man or woman is hotly debated among dating experts. Typically, the ideal time to wait to call is two to four days, though no longer than four to five days. Calling too soon can appear desperate.
  • On average, daters will kiss on the second date.c
  • Datingspesialister anbefaler at man venter til den tredje daten med å ha hjemmedate.
  • Research shows that men know they’re falling in love after just three dates, but women don’t fall in love until date 14.
  • A recent AOL survey says that 40% of women view an appropriate time frame to wait for sex as being one to three months, while 35% of men think the third date is fine.
    On average, couples have sex within about four to six dates.
  • Det vanligste er å gjøre 6-8 dates før man dater eksklusivt.
  • I snitt tar det 12-14 dates før par gir hverandre husnøkler.
  • De fleste forhold brytes ved 3-5 måneders varighet.


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